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Is your mate off his game?

Every year, one in four of us faces a mental health problem. That means the odds are 3/1 that at least one player on every five-a-side team is wrestling with a mental health problem right now. Or in every bus queue, at every tea-break or in every boy band. 

A mental health problem:


  •             reduces life-expectancy
  •             increases your chance of serious physical health problems
  •             damages your sex life.


Anyone can be affected by a mental health problem but how do you know? You can’t tell by looking.


We can kick mental health problems into touch just by not ignoring them.


What if a mate has a problem?


Don’t judge. Because we don’t really understand mental health problems, sometimes we shy away from people who have them. We pretend we’re different, that these things won’t affect us. But they do. One person in four means that mental health problems are very common. They hit people just like us. In fact, they can hit you or me.


By being around for someone with a mental health problem, you’re being a mate when they need you most. If you think a mate is bottling something up, there’s a simple way to make a difference:

Do something together

Car, computer, exercise, garden, walk - even housework. Get him to give you a hand. Feeling wanted makes us all feel better. You don’t have to talk but if you want to, doing something together makes it easier.

Keep it real: take it seriously but don’t make it a big deal. Ask him how it’s going. Simple. You don’t need to be an expert, you just need ears.

Spot the warning signs

Some common signs of mental health problem are:


  •             tired or problems sleeping
  •             thinking people are trying to harm you or are laughing at you
  • losing interest in work, sex, eating or anything you normally enjoy
  • self-harm or addiction.


Watch out for extremes compared to typical behaviour. This includes mood swings or being unusually angry or aggressive, having no energy or way too much energy, wanting to be alone more and more or wanting to go out more and more or refuelling too much with drink or drugs.

It can happen to anyone. You included.

If you’re worried you’re missing out on life because you’re feeling down, talk about it. Talk to family, friends, a helpline or other professionals. It doesn’t have to be someone you know.

We need to talk about it. It’s easier than you might think.



BOX: Top tips for talking about mental health


  • Hows it going? Three words that can make a big difference.
  • Keep in touch more: text or email if you can’t meet up.
  • Doing stuff together is as good as a chat: let your mate see that you know he’s still the same person.
  • Talk. Swap stories: don’t ignore the  difficult stuff if it comes up - you don’t need to solve it, you just need ears.
  • Keep it real: don’t make a big deal of how your mate is feeling but don’t make light of it either.
  • Be there: ask if you can do anything



  • Find out more about mental health and how to be there for someone at and

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